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Experiencing a Higher Power |
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Most people battling
addiction also struggle with the concept of a Higher
Power. Being asked to place your faith in something
unseen seems like a defeating task. Spiritual
connection and relationship with an intangible
Higher Power is possible, but the addict must be
willing to explore options. One of the benefits of
attending a drug rehab is that the addict can have
time away from substance abuse to begin a spiritual
journey.
What Does a
Relationship with a Higher Power Look Like?
A connection with a Higher Power complements an
addiction treatment program. A Higher Power should
encompass three qualities: Unconditional love,
unconditional acceptance and respect. It is
difficult for addicts, who are so damaged, to
believe that someone can have that unconditional
acceptance for them. A Higher Power should not be
punishing, but allow natural consequences for
behaviors to happen to the addict.
Relationship Barriers
to a Higher Power
The discussion of spirituality raises defenses for
most addicts who have had either poor or no
experiences with belief in a Higher Power. Some
people grew up in extremely religious settings where
they learned to avoid anything reminiscent of those
experiences. Others have had terrible childhood
experiences that left them to question God and the
existence of a God who would allow bad things to
happen. These situations with spiritual disconnects
are usually characterized by anger, control and
avoidance.
Anger
Anger is rooted in fear. Fear about the unknown,
fear of being disrespected or fear of being unloved.
For example, when someone cuts you off in traffic
you may have an angry reaction. This is normal.
However, the response to the anger is the important
piece. Holding onto anger prevents the addict from
being able to experience the peace that a Higher
Power offers.
Control
Addicts believe that they are in control and that by
engaging with a Higher Power they will have to
relinquish control. The type of control that the
addicts have is a false sense of control, especially
when using substances. Controlling individuals are
difficult to help because part of their belief
system is that they need no help. In this sense,
there is no need for a power greater than
themselves.
Avoidance
Addicts who practice the defense mechanism of
avoidance are stuffing emotions and avoiding feeling
them. A Higher Power can tap into the emotional
realm. If the addict is avoiding emotions, he or she
will not be aware when a spiritual connection occurs
through emotion.
Experiencing a Higher
Power
Gaining spirituality and connecting to a Higher
Power is not always easy, even if you had a
spiritual connection before drug addiction. Drug
addiction distances addicts from experiencing pure
forms of spirituality. Anger, control and avoidance
need to be challenged and confronted as part of the
addict’s spiritual journey. The addict does not need
to resolve these issues to experience a Higher
Power. However, he or she does need to acknowledge a
possible presence. A Higher Power will often use
these barriers as a way to reveal the spiritual
connection.
A spiritual connection
can happen inwardly and outwardly.
Inward Connection
After an addict is able to get in touch with
accurate emotions that are not drug-induced, he or
she has the opportunity to have a spiritual
connection through feeling. This internal connection
happens when least expected and is sometimes
described as an overwhelming peace in the midst of
chaotic circumstances.
Outward Connection
A Higher Power may use events that are out of the
addict’s control to sometimes reveal that there is a
spiritual entity at work. For example, the funding
runs out while the person is in addiction treatment.
Someone anonymously donates the exact amount of
money needed for the addict to complete treatment.
This is out of the addict’s control and the addict
benefits from it.
After the addict is able to be more self-aware about
feelings and acknowledge events that are definitely
spiritually influenced, he or she can understand how
someone has faith in something that is unseen.
This spiritual connectivity takes time and can be
fostered through different activities.
Activities That Help
Foster a Higher Power Experience
Much research has been done on the importance of
spirituality in addiction treatment. Regardless of
the choice of a Higher Power, prayer helps the
addict continue to grow a spiritual connection
needed to make permanent character changes.
Meditation is also helpful for fostering a spiritual
connection.
If the addict continues to struggle with internal
connections, he or she may have to look at the
outside events that are taking place to see the
influence of a Higher Power. These events may be
through others who are having a positive influence
on the addict’s recovery. Acknowledging another
entity at work outside of your immediate control is
one form of building a spiritual connection
outwardly first. Some addicts will find this type of
connection through attendance at Alcoholics
Anonymous/Narcotics Anonymous support groups.
Stopping substance abuse is helpful for connection
or reconnection with a Higher Power. Active
addiction interferes with spirituality and attempts
to prevent the addict from seeking a Higher Power
for support.
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